Failing is not the problem.
The problem is that in the Western world, you are taught to see failure as something to avoid and not as part of the learning process.
From an early age, you are labelled based on how much you can “produce” and urged to value the appearance of perfection much more than reality.
Grades, rankings and classifications come as tools to quantify success.
The other side of this coin is that you become just another number.
Things that are not quantifiable become worthless in the eyes of society, and very slowly, in your eyes as well.
You are conditioned to never show insecurities, weakness or failure and to perform and produce as much as possible.
Only when you have reached a perfect goal or life can you be truly loved or valued by others.
I want to advise you not to let this mentality consume you.
Life is not an achievement competition.
Your worth is not based on how much you have achieved and how much you have to give.
You can simply be and exist without constantly achieving or seeking.
You can stop and take breaks, and fail.
And you need to fail in life.
Failing is essential to success because it teaches you to adapt, and sharpens your biggest weapons – all the things that are not quantifiable.
Tenacity, compassion, good communication, teamwork, creativity, leadership and more are things you should value outside the setting of achieving and productivity.
Because at the end of the day, these skills allow you to move forward and bounce back after a loss.
They are the makers of success.
As long as you repeat that the most important thing in life is to be perfect and not fail, you will continue to condemn yourself to be a prisoner of your failures.
And that creates a mental block for your success.
You will be stuck in the past and believe you are not capable of chasing after what you want.
I recognise that it can be hard to take a step forward when things don’t go as planned, so I have written a step-by-step guide on how to deal with rejection and see setbacks as opportunities.
You can read it below.